Desperate Girls

Written by Sheryl Shaffer
 
“Someday my prince will come….,” are the words to a song sung by Snow White in the Disney animation of “Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs”.  Many a young girl has watched that movie and tucked away in her heart….the dream of her prince coming to get her. 

Is this wrong?

God created us to love.  Our heart’s desire to love and be loved, and they want to fasten themselves to someone else.  Woman was taken from the side of man and we have a God given desire to be restored to the side of a man.  The only problem with this desire is that we must be willing to keep it under control and to wait on the Lord to provide that someone to love.

Too many girls have been in love with the idea of being in love.  This is an open door to trouble and a broken heart.  I would like to encourage every single girl reading this brief article to examine your affections.  Are they directed to the Lord and your family, or are they out of place.

Every girl needs to make a close, personal examination of her own self in order to determine if she is even ready spiritually and emotionally for marriage.  Don’t be so desperate for love and attention that you will jump at the first guy who even shares a conversation with you.  Don’t become a desperate girl.  It’s actually quite unbecoming…even cheap.

Always remember….

1. God has a plan and knows who should be married to whom and when.  Your job in God’s plan is to wait patiently and love the Lord God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.  If a young man becomes more important to you than God’s will for your life, then he has become your idol.

2. Resist crushes.  Let the Lord bring someone to you.  Don’t go looking, flirting or practicing possessiveness on some guy you’ve set your sights on.   Don’t be desperate!

3. Always know your place….as unpopular as it may be in this day and age.  It’s a man’s job to choose and the woman’s job to be chosen.  Can’t God direct a good man and the right man to you in HIS time?  Do not allow yourself to get so desperate that you set out in presumption to “pick” your own guy.  You’re asking for disappointment and heartbreak.  You don’t know if that guy you have set your sights on is even God’s choice for you.  James 4:13-14 “Go to now, ye that say, To day or to morrow we will go into such a city, and continue there a year, and buy and sell, and get gain: Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away. For that ye ought to say, If the Lord will, we shall live, and do this or that.”

4. Avoid infatuations.   Infatuations are blinding and confusing.  No matter how strong these feelings may be, don’t expect God to lead you through your infatuation.  “Feelings” are not necessarily a sign from the Lord that someone is right for you.  God always leads through the truths in Scripture and there will be peace and joy in the heart of everyone connected to your situation.  If you don’t have the blessing of family and your pastor….run from the relationship!

Reject the tendency to get desperate.  You would be better off getting desperate for a better relationship with the Lord.  That will put you in a better position to pray and see those prayers answered.  Remember girls, God knows the plans He has for you.  Trust Him enough to let Him lead and love Him enough to follow. 

 Everything……in His time.